The Self Journal Has it All

I’ve been looking for THE journal/calendar for a while. I’ve tried online as well as physical ones and what I’ve come to realize is that I’m resisting something (thank you Turning Pro for opening my eyes!)  It’s not like I’m against a daily routine. I definitely brush my teeth, make my bed, have my daily Bulletproof tea, use my essential oils and shower every single day. I just haven’t energy and mental effort into planning my days. However, I can no longer ignore the necessity of this type of daily tracking tool because too many of my goals, ideas and dreams have fallen to the side because I don’t put them front and center. This blog, for example. I’ve announced more than once when I’m going to post here and then I let things slide. Just when I about typed I’m inconsistent, I realize I’m consistent at being inconsistent.  Not exactly what I’m going for. <eye roll>

I love social media but it doesn’t help the schedule. It’s a goddamn rabbit hole for me because I have no discipline and according to Turning Pro, “the amateur tweets, the pro works.” I know there are apps to use to turn off social media while the work gets done but I resist having to have an app tell me to keep off the internet and all the other distractions. Anyway, social media is just one thing…there are many things that have kept me from my goals. Believe me, there’s a plethora.

I don’t want this post to be about my amateurness but more about what I’m using to help me so let’s continue with my latest find, shall we? Before I bag on myself for my social media addiction (did I mention I’m an amateur?), social media led me to the Self Journal by BestSelf Co. You may have seen the ad as well. I normally ignore all Instagram ads but I felt compelled to check this one out because of my obsession with the RIGHT calendar. This popped up in my daily feed a couple of weeks and it was like a gift placed in my lap.

 

The Self Journal is a 13-Week Roadmap that helps you get organized while aligning day-to-day tasks to your goals. You set your goals, then break down actions steps and tasks based on those goals. There is a monthly calendar, a weekly progress space that allows you to reflect and track how you’re doing. There is space for morning and evening gratitude, goal reminder and target goals for the day in the daily planner pages.

This is exactly what I needed and while the set up has been a little painful, I love the daily attention it requires. I need to build my goal-setting and daily habit muscles and the way it is laid out makes it easy to use. I love that it allows for some creativity which you can see from their customer IG shares page. 

This 13-Week Roadmap goes for $31.99 which makes me dedicated to using it because who spends $127.96 for a yearly calendar/journal? Apparently me, so you bet your ass I’m going to be diving into this baby each and every day.

  • Do you struggle with setting goals and sticking to them?
  • Maybe you’re a goal-setting phenom…so spill your secrets!
  • What journals/calendars/goal-setting tools have worked for you? 

 

{photos from BestSelf Co}

My Podcast Obsession

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I mean it. I’m obsessed. I think it’s why my book reading has slowed way down. I can’t get enough of these little buggers. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, then you’re in luck because I’m going to give you the low down.

First off, let me explain the weird name. It’s a combination of two words: iPod + Broadcast = Podcast. They are basically audio files that you can download via iTunes, Overcast, Soundcloud or a gazillion others. I prefer Overcast for the aesthetics and ease of use. Podcast hosts usually embed their episodes on their websites so you can just click and listen via your computer as well. The benefit to the website version is that is where you’ll find the show notes. These are like the Cliff Notes of show and will contain links to content mentioned in episode. The podcast apps are great for listening on the go which I do whenever I get the chance.

You can subscribe to a podcast just like you subscribe to a website’s newsletter. But all you have to do is hit a button rather than enter your email address. Whenever an episode goes live, it will get automatically downloaded to your app and you can choose how many episodes you want to have downloaded at a time. I like to have three episodes per podcast ready to go at any time. Then once I listen to them, they disappear, opening up space on my phone again. If there is a particular podcast episode that I love, I star it so I can find it again easily.

How to Find Podcasts Related to Your Interest

Usually the podcast apps will have categories to search like New and Politics, Business, Society/Culture, Arts, Most Recommended. However, my favorite categories like Health/Wellness and Personal Development aren’t listed in Overcast. So what I will do is go into my Podcast app that automatically comes with the iPhone (the purple background with the white microphone) and search there. If you click on Featured, you will see a Categories button on the top left part of the screen. There you will find every category. You can also search Top Charts as well.

When I find the podcast I want, I will go back to Overcast, type the title of the show in the search box and voila! You can either download specific episodes or subscribe to the podcast. The latest three (or however many your choose) will be automatically downloaded when you are connected to WIFI.

Benefits of Listening to Podcasts

Become more imaginative and creative

Studies show that listening to podcasts stimulate mental imagery by building pictures of what they are listening to in their head therefore, podcast listeners have stronger imaginations.

Learn new things

There are podcasts that cover every single subject you can imagine. And I mean EVERYTHING. Do you need some financial advice? Try The Dave Ramsey Show. Want to travel the world but don’t know where to start?  Try Zero to Travel Podcast that shares conversations with world travelers on topics like running an online business while traveling, traveling on a budget, backpacking and much more.

Control the noise

You know how when you turn on the television or radio and you feel blasted by a firehose of information? It used to wear me out emotionally sometimes…the news alone puts me into a state of despair. Podcasts can be a way of controlling the noise in your life. We are by-products of the people and things we let occupy space in our lives and podcasts you hand pick can be a great way to fill up that prime real estate.

Gain some empathy and insight about the world

I’ve listened to interviews and topics related to the human condition that have opened my eyes and heart as to what others have gone through. I feel as if my soul expands when I listen to these type of podcasts and almost like I’ve taken a spiritual trip. There are some amazing people in the world and I feel like I’m part of their world by listening to their stories.

You know I’m all about sharing my favorite things so here are some of mine:

The Rich Roll Podcast: Rich was an unhealthy, unhappy lawyer turned ultra-endurance athlete/inspiration/podcaster. How’s that for fricking bio? He changed the direction of his life at 40 and now at 50 is considered one of the leaders in the plant power movement as well as just a really cool dude that everyone wants to talk to. He has interviewed Danielle LaPorte, founder of The Desire Map, Jessica Lahey, educator and author of The Gift of Failure, Dr. Rachel Abrams, primary care physician, integrative health expert and author of the book, BodyWise, Kerri Walsh Jennings…do I really have to give you the deets on her? I didn’t think so.

The theme of his podcast is to highlight courageous and inspired living so he’s always on the top of my to listen list.

Finding Mastery with Michael Gervais: Dr. Michael Gervais is a high performance psychologist who shares the inspiring stories of some of the world’s best athletes, business minds, activists, teachers, etc. who basically by the end of the show all turn into heroes. Whether it’s the things they’ve endured to get where they are, the amazing feats they’ve pursued, or the suffering that they have gone through to then find a way to use that for good in the world, Gervais uses his Jedi mind tricks to unpack it all in about 90 minutes. Yes, his episodes may be long but, oh, so good.

SuperSoul Conversations: As far as I’m concerned, Oprah is the holy grail. This podcast is going to do two things for me: 1) save my soul 2) free up a shitload of space on my DVR. I have as many episodes saved as my DVR will allow me and I have yet to watch any of them. I had every intention of watching them but I failed to remember that I don’t watch television. I’m so excited that her televisions interviews with brilliant authors, luminaries, and health/wellness experts are now in podcast form.

Beautiful Writers Podcast (a monthly podcast): Writer Linda Silverstein talks with bestselling authors and creatives about writing, publishing, inspiration, etc. and has hosted some of my favorites like Danielle LaPorte, Brené Brown, Steven Pressfield, and Dani Shapiro. The only problem I have with this podcast is that is only monthly and not every week. Linda is a gracious yet authentic person and the conversation reflects two friends hanging out to talk shop. The conversation is real, stimulating, and inspiring as hell.

Can you tell I’m on a self-discovery journey?! I know I could use some diversity in my list of favorites but I can’t help it. I love me some inspiring conversation.

The GoalDigger Podcast: Jenna Kutcher, small town photographer/educator/artist, offers this business podcast for creative entrepreneurs. She mixes interviews in with workshop style episodes to support other girl bosses as well as share what has made her successful. Her content is loaded with nuggets of wisdom and proven practices that will make you want to get out your notebook and start scribbling away.

Here are some other popular podcasts in case these are more up your alley:

  • The Tim Ferriss Show
  • Serial
  • Pod Save America
  • This American Life
  • Fresh Air

Are you a podcast fan? If so, please share some of your favorites in the comments!! 

 

FOMO…What are You Really Missing Out On?

 

FOMO = Fear of Missing Out

 

If you have a teenager in your home, I’m sure this is a familiar acronym. I’ve fought many battles that started out with “But Mom, I’ll be the only one…yada, yada, yada.” Do they even know who they are talking to?! I’m the mom who relishes being on the outside of all the wrong things. Just look at me. I use essential oils every day, I don’t eat fast food unless I have no other choice, and I rarely drink anymore. I’m the poster woman for being alone in a crowd. But that’s okay. That means I miss out on a having a medicine cabinet. I miss out on medicine side effects. I miss out on feeling crappy. I miss out on living symptom to symptom. I miss out on having hangovers and sleeping like poop. I guess I’m anti-FOMO.

I wasn’t always like that but I eventually made the choice to “miss out” because I finally learned that FOMO wasn’t aligning me with my true self. I have said yes to so many things when I should have said no (like getting set up for date parties in college. Ugh. Every one of them was a disaster!), carried on toxic friendships for way longer than they should, drank lots of drinks when I knew I was going to feel horrible the next day, ate gobs of fast food even though they gave me a rolling gut ache within minutes. I sat quiet during morally wrong conversations even though I knew they weren’t okay. FOMO made me feel conflicted and twisted inside. For a long time, I didn’t know I was living out of alignment because I didn’t know myself. Perhaps it was the realization that I was too old to be living like that anymore or that I really didn’t care what people thought about me anymore. I took back my life and kicked the FOMO to the curb.

My teenagers and I have LOTS and LOTS of talks about FOMO and how it’s all bullshit. Someday they have to look back on this time in their life and they will either be proud or disappointed. I was such a FOMO teen and my view of those years is definitely disappointing. I had no idea who I was and what I stood for so I was basically a chameleon. I became whoever I was with.

It’s taken a long time to not give a shit about missing out on things anymore. What matters to me now is that I live a life I love. I connect with others who make me a better person, not drag me down to make themselves feel better about their bad decisions. I have wasted enough time living out of alignment and it’s a huge effing drag.

 

What does FOMO look like in your life? 

 

Are you afraid to miss out on being involved at your kids’ school but don’t really have the time? 

Are you afraid of missing out on being part of who’s who in your community but don’t really feel a true connection with them?

Are you afraid of missing out on drinks with “the girls” but you really need to get some sleep?

Are you afraid of your kids missing out on activities just in case one of them just might be their thing?

Are you afraid of standing up for yourself for fear of being alone?

We’ve all been there, babe, and some of us are still there. Don’t give up on yourself and I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to have FOMO when has to do with cutting out all the junk you don’t need in your life.

My FOMO is the fear of missing out on an amazing life. I will miss out on that happy hour and go exercise to take care of my body. I will miss out on the fast food drive-thru and make a healthy meal that fuels my body. I will miss out on “girls’ night” and go on long walk in nature with my husband or dog to feel connected. I will miss out on binge watching ALL the television shows and go take a long bath with a good book that relaxes me. I will miss out on saying yes to people and things that aren’t me and say yes to who and what make me come alive.

I’ll own that FOMO every damn day.